DID YOU LOSE YOUR SKATE BRO TO A GIRL? HERE'S HOW TO GET HIM BACK ON HIS BOARD

Posted on 16 April 2025
By George Stix
Posted in skatersinlove
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Did You Lose Your Skate Bro to a Girl? Here’s How to Get Him Back on His Board

It happens to the best of us. One day you're bombing hills, filming VX lines, waxing up curbs at Monrovia Skatepark or stacking clips at South Pas, and the next — your homie vanishes. No texts. No clips. Just ghosted… and the reason? A girl.

Now don’t get it twisted — love is beautiful. We’re not anti-relationship here. But when your skate homie drops his setup cold turkey, starts wearing loafers instead of Vans, and trades weekend sessions for brunch dates and candle stores, it’s fair to say the skate scene just took an L.

So how do you bring him back to the light? How do you remind him that nothing compares to the sound of urethane on concrete or the feeling of sticking a trick you battled for weeks? This one’s for all the squads out there who've lost a brother to love. Here’s how to get him back on his board — without starting drama with his girl.

1. Recognize the Signs Early

Before it gets too deep — like before he sells his trucks or turns his garage into a pottery studio — you have to spot the symptoms. If he starts skipping sessions for “date night,” or suddenly doesn’t have “the right shoes to skate,” you’re already in Phase One. When he uses terms like “we” for every decision or hesitates to watch a skate video because “she’s not into it,” you’re headed for full-blown bro-detachment.

Early intervention is key.

2. Respect the Relationship... But Call It What It Is

You’re not trying to ruin his relationship. That’s not the move. What you’re doing is helping him balance. He doesn’t have to be single to skate — he just has to remember he’s a skater. Let him know you’re stoked for him, but that you miss the sessions. Say it straight: “Yo, I’m hyped you found someone, but damn, I haven’t seen you on grip tape in months. You good?”

Chances are, no one’s told him. He might not even realize how far he drifted. Sometimes love is a fog — you just need to shine a light through it.

3. Show Him What He’s Missing

Post that sunset session at Claremont. Tag him when someone lands the trick he was working on last summer. Clip up that line you filmed on his old spot and text it to him: “Remember this rail?” Nostalgia is powerful. And skaters are sentimental — don’t let the crusty exterior fool you.

Hit him with:

“Damn, this would’ve been a perfect sesh for you.”
“That ledge at South Pas finally got fixed. It’s calling your name.”

Sometimes, the itch comes back all on its own.

4. Invite, Don’t Pressure

You can’t shame someone back into skating. That just makes it worse. Instead, keep the invites casual.
“Heading to Bonita this weekend, feel like cruising?”
“We’re waxing up that red curb behind the church. Pull up if you’re free.”

Don’t guilt trip. Just make sure he knows the door’s open. If he passes a few times, keep inviting. It might take a while — but when he shows up, make it count. Hype him up like it’s 2007.

5. Involve the Girl (Carefully)

This is delicate. But if his girl’s cool, and you’ve met her, she might be the missing link. She doesn’t have to skate — she just needs to understand what it means to him. Share old clips. Talk about the road trips. Let her see how deep skateboarding runs in his veins.

If she’s got his back, she’ll support him picking up his board again. If she’s possessive or doesn’t vibe with skate culture, that’s a bigger convo. But sometimes all it takes is letting her in on the why.

6. Start a Chill Session Built for the Comeback

When he finally agrees to roll up again, don’t take him straight to the biggest rail or packed park. Go mellow. Hit a DIY curb spot. Warm up with flatground and low-pressure ledges. Get food after. Bring the crew but keep it chill.

You’re not there to test him. You’re there to welcome him back. Let him fall. Let him laugh. Remind him why this was never just a hobby.

7. Be Real About What Skateboarding Brings

Skating isn’t just about tricks — it’s about identity, creativity, expression, and release. When you’re skating, you’re not worried about bills, stress, or relationship drama. You’re in the moment.

Tell him what it’s been doing for you.

“I’ve been skating more lately — clears my head like nothing else.”
“Man, I forgot how good it feels to land a clean line.”

You’re not trying to compete with his relationship. You’re just reminding him that skating gives him something too — something irreplaceable.

8. Bring Up the Old Stories

That trip to Oceanside where he almost crooked that crusty 12-stair. That time he accidentally ollied over a possum. The Stix SGV contest where he skated in socks and still placed. Remind him he’s got history with skateboarding. Deep roots.

Relationships are new and exciting, but those OG stories? They carry weight. When he remembers what skateboarding gave him, he’ll want to feel it again.

9. Don’t Be Bitter if He Still Picks Love First

Look — some dudes just go all in. And if he’s truly happy and makes the choice to focus on that chapter of life, respect it. Skateboarding will always be there. Maybe he’ll come back in a month. Maybe in a year. Maybe after a breakup or when life settles.

Leave the door open.
Keep a deck in your trunk for him.
When he’s ready, let him roll back in like he never left.

10. But If You Get Him Back… Don’t Let Him Drift Again

Once he’s back, make skating part of the lifestyle again. That might mean earlier sessions, texting in advance, or filming on days that work around his schedule. Be flexible. Skateboarding grows with you — and with the right balance, it can live alongside love, jobs, and even parenthood.

The key? Remind him this doesn’t have to be an either/or thing.

Final Thoughts

Losing a skate bro to a relationship stings — not because you're jealous, but because you miss the energy, the friendship, the sessions. Skate crews are families. When one person dips, the vibe shifts.

But love doesn’t have to kill the skate spark.

Sometimes it just needs a little push, a little patience, and a reminder of what that grip tape underfoot really means.

So if you’ve lost your homie to date nights and Netflix binges, don’t stress. With the right words, the right vibes, and maybe a clip or two from Monrovia or South Pas, you might just get him to lace up again.

Because real ones never quit — they just pause.

And skateboarding always welcomes you back.

Stix SGV has proudly served the San Gabriel Valley skateboarding community since the late ‘90s. With three locations across Los Angeles County, we’ve been deeply rooted in the local scene. Our Monrovia shop has been a staple since 1997, followed by our Claremont location in 2014, and our South Pasadena shop opening its doors in 2022. Our mission has always been simple: to uphold skateboarding culture and stay true to our community.